Social Media in Divorce Proceedings: Dos and Don'ts

As our lives become increasingly digitized, social media plays a pivotal role in shaping personal and public narratives. In the context of divorce proceedings, social media can serve as a powerful tool for gathering evidence, but it can also be a minefield that might damage your legal case if not navigated carefully. This article aims to shed light on the dual nature of social media in divorce proceedings and offer guidance on its responsible use.

The Role of Social Media in Divorce Proceedings

Social media platforms such as Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter have become virtual extensions of our lives, documenting our daily activities, conversations, and emotions. They are treasure troves of data that lawyers can sift through to gather evidence supporting their client's case.

Your spouse's social media posts could potentially be used against them in court. For example, a post about a recent extravagant purchase or vacation could undermine claims of financial hardship during alimony negotiations.

Conversely, your social media activity could be leveraged to support your case. A photograph of your spouse partying late into the night might cast doubt on their suitability as a primary caregiver in a custody dispute.

However, using social media during divorce proceedings is a delicate balancing act. It's essential to understand that what you post online is potentially public information, which can be misconstrued and used against you.

The Potential Pitfalls of Social Media Use

Seemingly innocent posts or comments can have unintended legal consequences. For instance, a casual tweet about relaxing with a glass of wine could be twisted to suggest substance abuse issues. Even a post venting frustration about the divorce process might be interpreted as a sign of instability or anger management issues.

Best Practices for Social Media Use During Divorce

Below, we outline some general do’s and don’ts as they relate to social media use during divorce proceedings.


  • Use discretion. Be mindful of what you post or comment. Always assume that anything you post can be seen by your ex-spouse and their attorney.
  • Review the account privacy settings. Regularly review and update your privacy settings to control who can see your posts and personal information.
  • Change your passwords. Update passwords for all your social media accounts to prevent unauthorized access.
  • Consider who your friends are. It might be in your best interest to do an audit of who your friends are on your various social media platforms. While you may have removed your soon-to-be-ex, certain mutual friends or in-laws may also need to be muted or blocked.


  • Don't vent or badmouth others. Avoid posting negative comments about your ex-spouse. This could potentially be used against you, especially in cases involving child custody disputes.
  • Don't flaunt new relationships or your dating life. Sharing details about a new relationship can complicate divorce proceedings and even lead to emotional distress3.
  • Don’t share case-related information. Refrain from discussing any aspects of your divorce case on social media. This restraint does not just apply to TikTok, Instagram, and Facebook but also to Reddit and other online chat forums. While you may feel comfortable sharing anonymously on this platform, you never know what can be traced back to you.

Our Attorney Can Advise You

At Family Law Solutions of Iowa, LLC, we are committed to making the divorce process easier, as we support you every step of the way. If you have more specific questions about social media usage and divorce, the way specific posts may impact your case, or other matters, our attorneys are here and ready to help you.

Request a case consultation today by calling (515) 305-3474.

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